Your desire to have a boyfriend is a natural part of life. However, you need to ask yourself why do you really want a boyfriend. I can speak from experience on the subject. When I was in ninth grade, I wanted a boyfriend. I was not a popular student. I...
Your desire to have a boyfriend is a natural part of life. However, you need to ask yourself why do you really want a boyfriend. I can speak from experience on the subject. When I was in ninth grade, I wanted a boyfriend. I was not a popular student. I just wanted to fit in with the popular students. It seemed that the popular girls all had boyfriends.
At eighteen, I found a boyfriend. At nineteen, he and I were married. At forty-four years of age, after twenty-five years of marriage, and two beautiful children, he divorced me.
Now, I wish I had not been so intent upon having a boyfriend. But I will tell you that I did not find my boyfriend at the places I liked to hang out. I loved attending church functions at your age. The man I married did not like church functions. I knew this before I married him, but I thought I could change him. You cannot change a person. I did not find him in church, and this became a major division in our lives.
My advice is to find out who you are. Do not do what I did. I married a man who validated me. He told me who I was or who I was to be, and actually, that was the problem in our twenty-five years of marriage. I became who he wanted me to be. I lost the person I was born to be. Today, after being divorced for five years, I am just finding out who I really am. Today, at fifty years old, I have lost so many years trying to be someone my ex-husband wanted me to be.
Don't rush love. Find out who you are and what you want to do with your life. Then begin hanging out with people who share your similar interests. Although opposites attract, run from your opposite. Find someone who has compatibility with you. It is hard to pretend for someone else, even if you think you have fallen in love.
One more point: do not date anyone until you have assurance that the person is compatible. Dating can lead to prematurely falling in love with the wrong person. I know. I did it. I am still recovering from divorce.