There is a definite need for adoptive parents. There are over 130,000 children who need homes in the United States.
How is a family created? Often, we think of families being made when a woman gives birth to a child. But adoption is another way families are created.
Adoption is a process whereby a person assumes the parenting for another and, in so doing, permanently transfers all rights and responsibilities from the original parent or parents.
In every other way, adoptive parents are the child's parents. By going through this legal process of adoption, the couple is promising to take care of the child for the rest of his/her life and make him/her part of their family.
If a couple has fertility problems and cannot conceive, be sure that the grieving process is over before the adoption discussion begins. Adopting will not solve that issue for the couple. If the couple is ready to begin the process, both of them must be in agreement. The adoption will not be successful if one of the prospective parents is not completely on board.There are many issues to consider.The first question both must answer: How will we know when we are ready to adopt?
There are things to consider before beginning the adoption process.
- Can the couple afford this life-changing event?
- What age and sex would best suit the couple?
There are many wrong reasons to consider adoption:
- We want a playmate for our birth child.
- Our marriage is shaky and a child will bring us back together.
- Since we can't have birth children, I guess there is no difference anyway.
- I feel so empty inside. A child will fill up that emptiness.
An adoptive child cannot fulfill any of these reasons.
On the other hand, if a stable loving couple, wants to share their home with a child and love the child for who he is, than sounds like they are ready.
Being a parent is a lot of work, but having a family also is a wonderful experience. Children make almost anything more fun, so it is no wonder people want to have them in their lives.
It often takes a lot of time and effort to adopt a child. Some people wait for years to adopt a baby. Adopting a child is not like shopping for a new coat. You don't just pick one off the rack and take it home.
Planning the adoption requires having an adoption plan that falls in line with the couple's values. One of the biggest reasons people fail to achieve their adoption goals is that they have conflict between what is valuable to them and what is realistic. Do they perceive adoption as rescuing a poor child or as a gift from one person to another? Will a child that is not the couple's biological child mean as much to them as a biological child? The couple must know themselves and understand what is important to them before they can take on the responsibility of another human being.