The dead in the cemetery seem to be irritated by the living people who mourn for the dead, or they think the mourners are silly. When the mourners arrive for the funeral, Simon Stimson, one of the dead, says, "I'm always uncomfortable when they're around." At the end of the play, he goes into a long tirade about how ignorant and self-centered the living are, always being controlled by their passions. He says this just before George Gibbs comes alone to the cemetery hours after his wife's funeral has ended. Presumably one of the silly passions Mr. Stimson was complaining about is grief for the loss of loved ones.
Others among the dead comment when George comes to grieve. They say that he shouldn't be coming at that time of day. One says it's "funny," that is, odd, that he should be there. A woman says, "That's no way for him to behave" when George falls to his knees mourning—as if his behavior is in bad taste and outrageous.
The dead seem totally unsympathetic to the sorrows the living have over those who have passed away. They go on and on about how blind the living are, how they lack understanding, as if the dead don't recall feeling the same way. The portrayal is ironic in that the dead seem just as blind in their own way of earthly realities as the living are blind toward eternal realities. Supposedly the dead have a higher level of understanding and have risen above being overcome with sorrow and grief. The fact that the dead don't mourn in return is one of the most disturbing aspects of the play. That is the part, as the Stage Manager warned, that hurts our feelings.