Being loved is the feeling of being valued and cherished for who you are as a person, and that does not necessarily mean one is understood. Winston is loved by Julia, but she does not understand his feelings towards the Party or why he is upset about the situation. Winston, though happy with Julia, always has a nagging feeling because he knows she does not understand him really. This is evident in her disinterest in party politics and when Winston is reading O'Brien's philosophy. Julia falls asleep while he is reading to her. This beings to increasingly disturb him, and this shows he probably prefers to be understood rather than loved.