You Must Remember This is a chronicle of the Stevick family from 1946 to 1956. The primary movement in the novel involves the love affair between Enid Maria Stevick and her half-uncle Felix. The novel also deals with many other love relationships of Stevick family members.
The novel begins with a shocking description of Enid’s attempt to commit suicide by ingesting an overdose of aspirin. The story then moves back to an earlier time in the family history, the time that led to the suicide attempt. Enid’s preoccupation with death as a child is clear as she looks at a picture of a boy who tried to escape from a Nazi death camp. Oates describes the poverty of the Stevick family and the neighborhood in which they live, an area in which the air is polluted by chemicals from nearby factories. There is an emphasis on sex and violence in their lives.
The first and only time that Enid sees her Uncle Felix box occurs when Lyle Stevick takes his children to a boxing match. Enid is the youngest child of the Stevick family in attendance. Although she is shocked and almost overwhelmed by the blood and violence of what she sees and wonders why people would want to hurt each other like that, she is impressed at seeing her uncle in a new way. Felix seems a person that Enid does not know, and she wonders if he would know her.
One senses the sexual undercurrent between Enid and Felix from the beginning. On the beach near the summer cottage of Geraldine and Neal O’Banan, the sister and brother-in-law of Enid, Felix offers to give fourteen-year-old Enid a boxing lesson. The “boxing lesson” becomes more sexual in nature as it continues. Felix is snake-quick in his movements, which leave Enid frustrated because she cannot return his blows. After a while, Enid springs at her uncle in a frenzy, and Felix sees that he has gone too far. Love and hate are often closely connected in the relationship of Felix and Enid....
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