Themes and Meanings

(Comprehensive Guide to Short Stories, Critical Edition)

In this uncomplicated, traditionally plotted story, Alice Munro uses the same motif that informs most of her stories—the quest for fulfillment by girls and women. The focus is on the younger Edie, an untutored country girl who, in her first job away from home, discovers the human inclination to pursue wished-for truths that often turn out to be forms of self-deception.

Loretta Bird is one character who exhibits this proclivity. Loretta, who has trained her eyes and ears to miss nothing of inconsequence and whose tongue never utters anything of consequence, preens with a sense of self-inflated importance. To Loretta, life is drama, full of intrigue and corruption, and she is an essential player whose information and commentary are vital to the outcome. What Edie observes, but Loretta is ignorantly or willfully blind to, is that others regard her more as a pesky blackbird that screeches, squawks, and squats regardless of anyone’s welcome—a general nuisance whom others tolerate out of a reluctant sense of propriety.

Alice Keller suffers from an even more serious case of self-deception. Alice is in pursuit of a life with Chris Watters, but Chris proves to be an elusive prey. Ever since Alice nursed him back to health in a military hospital, he has been on the move. After they became engaged, he left for overseas duty. Perhaps Chris did have noble intentions someday to honor his commitment, but when he returned, Alice observed that he had become terribly restless. Several years later now, Chris is still on the run, flitting from place to place offering airplane rides and trying to stay ahead of his pursuing fiancée. Alice ignores the clues of his rejection. Although he never leaves a forwarding address, she tracks him down relentlessly with the blind faith that she will yet prevail: Chris will park his plane permanently, marry her, and become her loving husband. All the characters in the story sense the futility of that dream, except Alice. Munro shows that people tend to believe what they wish to believe, regardless of the facts.

Observing such frailty in others, however, does not guarantee anyone’s exemption from succumbing to the same weakness. That is Edie’s most significant discovery in the story and occasions its title. From the moment Edie lays eyes on Alice, she feels the surge of her own superior physical charms, which certainly must be sufficient to attract Chris away from the well-worn Alice. When Chris, after their steamy tumble in the tent, promises that he will write, she knows she has won him. All of this leads her to an unshakable faith that his letter will come. It does not, of course. Like Alice, she, too, has fallen to self-deception. In the moment of that realization, she stops meeting the mail.

Although she does not realize it, Edie has already met her husband. Munro’s surprise ending leaves the reader with a smile. The smile deepens when the husband, too, is exposed as one who lives by self-deception, although of an innocent kind. For Edie, the married woman who long ago realized what she had been saved from, has just confided something that she has never told her husband: the real reason for her daily appearance at the mailbox. Her husband believes it was for him, and because that makes him happy, she allows him to believe that vital falsehood.

How I Met My Husband Themes

Memory and Storytelling
From the point of view of an adult, no longer as slender and pretty as she was when the action of the story takes place, Edie looks back on her life to give meaning to it. Significantly, rather than harboring resentment for Chris for not writing to her, she preserves what was wonderful in knowing him: his compliments, his warm kisses, and his kindness. She remembers that he said, “I wouldn’t do you any harm for the world,” and she does not blame him because she waited for his letters. Edie is able to do this, Munro implies, because as a young woman she took responsibility for her happiness rather than wait for a man to give it to her. However, the act of telling her story is just as empowering, for it constructs who she is for the audience. Munro acknowledges that truth in storytelling is not fixed, however, and for this reason Edie’s husband has a different version of the events, which is just fine with Edie because she wants him to be as happy with his sense of himself as she is happy with hers.

Social Class
Edie’s social class gives her vitality as well as access to knowledge. Lacking pretense, Edie sees the falseness in others but also sees their goodness. Class perspective, suggests Munro, is privileged from the bottom up, in that Edie’s background as a farm girl enables her to see to the truth of things in ways that Mrs. Peebles, in spite of her intended kindness, simply cannot. Edie experiences the chasm between the ease of middle-class life and the life she had been accustomed to on the farm: “Sometimes I thought about the way we lived out at home and the way we lived here and how one way was so hard to imagine when you were living the other way.” However, more than this, she recognizes that her own background enables her to understand more than someone in Mrs. Peebles’s position ever could: “But I thought it was still a lot home, to...

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