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Which one is better "blood relation or friendship?"

this is only based on ones opinion but in my opinion blood realetions you have to like them freind ship is a choice thats all i got

In my opinion a blood relationship is better then a friendship. Friends will come and go, but family will always be there. In your life you will come across friends who may stay in your life forever and then you have those who may be in your life for only a short time. Family will always be your family. even if you dont see them all the time, you will always know that they are there waiting for you when you need them.

that may be true but dont you ever feel like you have to like them

Blood relationship is good, but friendship is better. Blood relationship is something given to you; you don't have a freedom to choose, the freedom to know a person, to accept or reject, to share anything and everything. There is a chance of a good friend turning into a foe; but the same may happen in case of a blood relation of yours. You may have heard of the famous line of Shakespeare:'the near in blood, the nearer bloody'. There is no problem if blood relationship is friendly, because friendliness is the true essence of all relatioships.

You would think that with blood relationships that you can always love and trust that person because you are kin, but unfortunately, that is not always the case. I am very close to my family, so in my opinion, blood is much stronger, but that is certainly not the case for a number of people. Friendship is better simply because it is (or should be) a relationship based on common interests, respect, and trust. You can pick your friends, which is certainly not the case with family.

I believe the closest and most important relationship for most of the people is that between husband and wife. If you are too young to be married, you can think of this as the relationship that exists between parents.

Clearly this is not a blood relationship. It is not appropriate to call it just a friendship also. So how good or bad a relationship does not depend on whether it is a friendship or blood relationship. It depends on the effort and care put in to make the relationship work, to make it satisfying, useful and long lasting.

I would say blood relations are always better because you only have one family. Friendships can come and go, but families are from history and tradition.

This reminds me of the question: which came first--the chicken or the egg? And the answer is: the chicken.  Actually has to come before potentiality. Family is now, friendships can develop. 

There's a saying, you don't get to choose your family, but you can pick your friends. As I have gotten older, I have learned which of my family members I know I can count on, and fortunately that is most of them. However, I do have a couple of family members that I wouldn't trust as far as I could pick them up and throw them. I have some friends who as close to me as any sibling, closer actually than two of my siblings. Although the ideal is that family will stand by you no matter what, that is not always the reality.

While it is true that you "don't get to pick your parents," you can "pick your chlldren (through adoption." But no matter whether your family is close or estranged, they are the only relatives you have and you should strive to make sure that your family relations endure.  You can only do so much.