In your opinion, what do you think of old-fashioned parents who would want to choose a career for their children? Explain why.
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In many cases parents may feel that their judgement is better than the child's in this matter. The parents have, of course, a lot more life experience, plus they know their offspring well enough to recognize strengths and weaknesses. Young people, lacking their parents' experience, sometimes wish for careers that are not realistic choices. Consequently parents may try to push the child toward a career that they feel is a good match with the child's strengths, in the hopes that the child will be successful in that field.
Some parents may be trying to look out for themselves a bit. They may push a child toward a career with a lot of power or earning potential in the hopes that this will provide the child with the means to keep his or her parents in comfortable circumstances in their old age. A parent who owns a business may try to push a child into taking over the business in order to keep it in the family.
There are also some parents who try to steer their child's career choices based on their own lives and regrets. Parents who dislike their own jobs may try to discourage their children from going into the same field. A parent who did not get to have the career he or she really wanted may push a child toward that very career, perhaps as a way to engage in it vicariously through the child.
This depends on what you mean by choosing a career for your kid. I think it is not a very good thing to actually tell your child "you're going to be in profession X." I think that kids have to be able to pick for themselves. But I don't think there's much wrong with trying to help your child head towards a realistic profession that has a good future (so long as the ultimate choice is theirs).
I can only speak to how I will treat my own children, and I plan to encourage and support them in their own choices. I don't see the role of the parent to determine the future of their child, only to equip them with the ability to make sound choices.
Now, if one of my children picked a profession that I disapproved of, I would talk with them and try to understand their logic in the choice, but I wouldn't choose for them.
Don't forget, parents can only control their children until they come of age. You certainly have the right to lead a life of your own and choose a profession of your own, and once you are 18, you have every right to leave home and make your own decisions. If you plan to attend college, and your parents are paying for your tuition and housing, then they have every right to have some sort of say in the path you take in college. It certainly wouldn't be fair for them to assert a take-it-or-leave-it type of stance, and hopefully you and your parents will be able to agree to allow you to make your own decisions toward your future.
Personally, I think everybody should choose their careers for themselves. We (I'm speaking as an American) aren't the kind of society that encourages parents to make life decisions for their kids beyond their adolescence. I realize that there are places and cultures that are different. But here in the United States, that just wouldn't work in most cases.
I would go beyond simply calling them "old-fashioned" and definitely feel like the words oppressive and overbearing would describe parents like that more accurately. It's great to encourage our children to take a certain career path, but to actually choose a career for them is something that would cause a lot of conflict; and I'm not sure it's very possible these days.
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