I'm working on my thesis and really need some data from English speaking teachers. Please answer this question as naturaly as possible. Thank you very much.
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If you are talking about teachers of high school students, I am a high school teacher, I am forbidden by the terms of my contract to give a ride in my car to a student. I can be terminated from my job for giving a student a ride in my car even if it is completely innocent. This type of behavior crosses the line of proper behavior, it violates protocol.
If you are referring to a college professor giving a ride to a college student, then I would say that the student should say thank you professor for your help in driving me home.
The response should be thank you very much, I am grateful for your kindness.
If any person at all should stop and offer to give you a ride the first thing you need to do is be sure you know the person very well. When you are getting out of the car, in the USA, the custom would be to thank the person for the ride. I would say something like, "Thank you a lot for picking me up. If there is anything I can ever do to repay you just let me know."
I get the impression that you are looking for the most natural, idiomatic response. I think it would be something like ...
Thanks so much for giving me a ride! I really appreciate it!
There is certainly nothing incorrect about the other two responses, but they seem a little bit stilted and formal to me.
As it has been pointed out in answers in some cases it may not be appropriate for the person to offer a lift to you, or for you to accept the offer. In both this cases it is best to decline the offer curtly, without trying to explain the reason for the same. Also do not offer false excuses. If the other person insists, the best way for you may be to just just go on repeating your initial refusal in simple words like "No thank you". Social scientists call this technique of refusing the broken record technique. This is most effective way of refusing when it is not essential to give justification for refusing offers or requests of others.
When you do accept a lift - and this must be done only when appropriate - it is a good practice to thank the person giving you a lift. As a matter of fact it is a good practice to any one who has helped you an any way, big or small. You will never loose anything by thanking when it was not really called for, but you will definitely loose some goodwill if you do not thank when you should have.
Rules for thanking for small help such as giving lift in car are quite simple. Your thank must be short and sincere. It is not advisable to become too profuse in your thanking. It can embarrass the other person.
There are no hard and fast rules on actual words to say. But if you cannot think of anything else to say, simple "thank you" is good enough. But if you can think up of saying something differently, no problem, go ahead. For example, you may say,
I am lucky that you came otherwise I would have been late for school.
Well if its a dire situation and you need really need a ride then a teacher can give the ride, your safety comes first. But teachers really should not giving rides to students especially if its only one student and the opposite sex of the teacher. Well if you did get the ride, you should say: "thank you, and I really appreciate you helping me out."
Thanks very much. I appreciate your kind ride.
I agree this would be a bad idea for a high school teacher. Students, parents, and others could misconstrue or deliberately twist the kind gesture. However, if it were to occur, the person should simply say, “Thank you m’am or thank you sir.”
Teachers should not give rides to students. In cases where they may be stranded, it is more appropriate to call a parent or guardian right away.
The proper thing to say when someone helps you out in any situation is "Thank you very much. I appreciate your help."
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