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Why wouldn't Juliet tell her parents she was already married and happy with Romeo,...

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jowens1 | Student, Grade 9 | eNotes Newbie

Posted May 4, 2007 at 1:24 AM via web

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Why wouldn't Juliet tell her parents she was already married and happy with Romeo, instead of having to fake her death and in the end lose Romeo.

If she loved him as much as she thought she did she would of stood up to her parents.

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jdellinger | High School Teacher | Honors

Posted May 4, 2007 at 2:34 AM (Answer #1)

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She couldn't stand up to her parents, that was not heard of during Elizabethean time.
Most marriages in Elizabethean time were arranged not out of love. Juliet was to marry Paris. Also, her family was feuding with the Montague's so not only was she falling in love, but she was marrying her enemy. "There was no such thing as a “love” marriage in the Elizabethan social culture. The marriages were arranged by the father, and the daughter was expected to be obedient to her parents in their requests."
"It should be noted that Paris was courting by the accepted rules of the day. He talked with the father first and asked for Juliet’s hand in marriage. Paris is patient and waits for an answer from Lord Capulet. Romeo, on the other hand, does not court by the accepted rules. He has gone behind the father’s back, talked directly with the daughter, and asks her to marry him. Not only has he not courted by the rules, the lovers are married secretly without the knowledge or consent of the parents."

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ms-t | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Adjunct Educator

Posted May 4, 2007 at 9:32 PM (Answer #2)

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At the beginning of the play, Juliet illustrates the expected level of obedience to her parents in who she should marry when she responds her mother's question of whether she could love Paris in Act I, Scene 3: "I'll look to like, if looking liking move: But no more deep will I endart mine eye/ Than your consent gives strength to make it fly". Juliet would only allow her feeling to go as far as her parents would allow and consent to.

Her parent's reaction to the Juliet's declaration that she will not marry Paris on Thursday in Act III, Scene 5 shows the reactions and consequences of Juliet's disobedience to her parent's wishes.

Lord Capulet: "Hang thee, young baggage! disobedient wretch!/ I tell thee what,--get thee to church o' Thursday, /Or never after look me in the face:/ Speak not, reply not, do not answer me;/ My fingers itch.--Wife, we scarce thought us bles'd/ That God had lent us but this only child;/ But now I see this one is one too much,/ And that we have a curse in having her: Out on her, hilding!"

Lady Capulet: "Talk not to me, for I'll not speak a word;/ Do as thou wilt, for I have done with thee".

Both Lord and Lady Capulet are willing to disown Juliet helps to illustrate why Juliet would be unwilling to tell her parents that she had not only married against their wishes, but to the son of her family's mortal enemy.

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trinalou | Student, Grade 10 | eNotes Newbie

Posted May 5, 2007 at 2:02 AM (Answer #3)

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because there families were arguing loads and were enemies. if she did tell them tybalt would have probably killed romeo as tybalt hated the montagues.

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mickey2bailey | Middle School Teacher | (Level 3) Assistant Educator

Posted May 9, 2007 at 12:49 AM (Answer #4)

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Juliet would never tell her parents of her marriage because she has toally alienated her parents from her decision to marry Romeo. This was unheard of in Elizabethean Times.Marriages were arranged by the parents ,usually from birth or at a very early age, and there was a process to follow. The gentleman was to ask the father's permission to marry, court the lady, and then get the final approval of her father and mother for the marriage to occur. Count Paris has done all those steps. Romeo is an enemy of the Capulet family because of a feud that has nothing to do with him. He is an outcast before he could ever ask for a chance. I also feel that Juliet is afraid of her father and this is supported by his outrage, verbally and physically, in Act III Scene 5 when Juliet refuses to marry Paris. Juliet feels that the only way to be with the man she loves is to risk it all and do whatever is necessary to live forever with her Romeo. Death doesn't matter at this point as long as her love continues.

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parkej | Student, Grade 11 | eNotes Newbie

Posted September 24, 2007 at 5:48 PM (Answer #6)

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i say it was sexist in the Elizabethan days as the fathers had to choose who there daughters could marry and the daughters had no say.

like juliet tried to stand up to her dad but he fretend juliet saying if you dont marry paris you will not have anything to do with us i shall through u out with nothing...

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