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melskielee19 | Student, Grade 9 | eNoter

Posted September 8, 2011 at 7:29 PM via web

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Why can love sometimes be very dangerous among teens?

Why can love sometimes be very dangerous among teens?

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accessteacher | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

Posted September 8, 2011 at 8:31 PM (Answer #2)

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Well, I guess the main reason is that adolescence is a period where, because of all the growth going on in our bodies, we have most hormones bumping around our system. It is also difficult because it is when we inhabit that vague, nebulous area beween the dependence of childhood and the independence of adulthood, yet do not occupy either extreme yet. Because of the desire for ever-greater independence but also the massive physical and sexual changes that are going in within us, this is a potentially very precarious period of our lives. Any feelings of love towards somebody else can lead us to give in to our emotions and engage in acts that are ruled by our heart more than our head. Clearly, any sexual acts can have massive consequences, not least emotionally, and this is why falling in love at a time when we are undergoing such massive changes can potentially be very risky. Having said this, I do not for one minute think that this is the case with every teen, and love is always dangerous, no matter how old we are, because of the way that it leaves us vulnerable and open. It is just that this feeling combined with the phase of adolescence makes it more dangerous.

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pohnpei397 | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

Posted September 9, 2011 at 3:37 AM (Answer #5)

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I agree with everything the first post says, but I would also point out that teens are (generally speaking) less capable of controlling their emotions than adults are.  This can lead teens to do really stupid things for love and/or if their love does not work out.  There is, of course, always a danger of this, but it seems to me that it is more pronounced for teens.  They are more likely to do stupid things to prove their love and they are more likely to become a bit unstable if their love does not work out the way they want.

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larrygates | College Teacher | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

Posted September 9, 2011 at 4:33 AM (Answer #6)

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There is little one can add to accessteacher's eloquent response; other than teenagers tend to suffer from an illusion of invincibility which tends to make them see problems as much less serious than they really are. Then too, there is David Hume's hypothesis that reason is the slave of passion. Any person, not just a teenager, is prone to surrender his better judgment to the chemistry of love. In the teen years, with little life experience and a tendency to see things as much simpler than they really are; together with the chemical changes through which one is going, teenagers and love can be a volatile mixture. One can only hope that they, as did we, weather the storm of their teenage years with a minimum of damage. (No one escapes without some "weathering.") At age 63, I am thankful that I and my son made it through. Now all I need worry about is my grandchildren!

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literaturenerd | High School Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

Posted September 9, 2011 at 9:16 AM (Answer #7)

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In agreement that accessteacher simply states it in the best possible way, I feel as though I can offer something a little different.

My daughter, 14, just broke up with her first "boyfriend". He immediately began to tell her that he loved her. Her response? We are too young to know what love is. My daughter is her mother's child. (I have taught her well--not tooting my own horn, but she really does have a great head on her shoulders.)

Now, her "ex" loves her best friend. This has caused problems--as I am sure you could imagine.

Teenagers, today, are simply not cognitively developed enough to understand the concept and consequences of love. This alone is dangerous.

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lrwilliams | College Teacher | (Level 3) Associate Educator

Posted September 9, 2011 at 10:27 PM (Answer #8)

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As all the above posts have said teens are not usually capable of handling all the emotions that come with a loving relationship. The pressure to take the relationship to a physical level just simply because someone said "I love you" seems to be too much for many teens to overcome.

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lsumner | High School Teacher | (Level 2) Senior Educator

Posted September 9, 2011 at 10:40 PM (Answer #9)

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As an adolescent, emotional love overtakes one's reasoning and can be dangerous. I am speaking from experience. As a teenager, I fell in love. After some time, I began to see that my boyfriend and I were incompatible. However, since I was in love, I reasoned that my love would change him. After twenty-five years of marriage, he and I divorced. We tried to make it work for twenty-five years, but he never changed nor did I. I knew at eighteen that we were incompatible, but I thought my love would change him. As a teenager, love is a dangerous thing. I wish I had been wiser, but I was a teenager in love. My husband and I spent twenty-five years trying to make it work. As a teenager in love, I thought love would be enough to overcome all obstacles. You can fall in love with someone who is totally opposite from you. This is dangerous. Instead of picking up on the warning signs of incompatibility, my love allowed me to overlook all warning signs. As a teenager in love, I really thought I could change him. Now, as a fifty-two-year-old woman, I realize how dangerous the emotion of love can be. I spent twenty-five years of my life trying to change him. He spent twenty-five years trying to change me. It never happened. Teenage love is not enough to overcome the hardships that come with marriage.

 

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melskielee19 | Student , Grade 9 | eNoter

Posted September 11, 2011 at 10:02 PM (Answer #10)

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Well, I guess the main reason is that adolescence is a period where, because of all the growth going on in our bodies, we have most hormones bumping around our system. It is also difficult because it is when we inhabit that vague, nebulous area beween the dependence of childhood and the independence of adulthood, yet do not occupy either extreme yet. Because of the desire for ever-greater independence but also the massive physical and sexual changes that are going in within us, this is a potentially very precarious period of our lives. Any feelings of love towards somebody else can lead us to give in to our emotions and engage in acts that are ruled by our heart more than our head. Clearly, any sexual acts can have massive consequences, not least emotionally, and this is why falling in love at a time when we are undergoing such massive changes can potentially be very risky. Having said this, I do not for one minute think that this is the case with every teen, and love is always dangerous, no matter how old we are, because of the way that it leaves us vulnerable and open. It is just that this feeling combined with the phase of adolescence makes it more dangerous.

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felquilem | College Teacher | (Level 2) Adjunct Educator

Posted September 15, 2011 at 10:38 AM (Answer #12)

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"Love " is most dangerous when it is not understood or defined.  When we have not taken the time to figure out who we are, we become vulnerable to all kinds of emotional damage. Before one embarks on a voyage with another, it might be wise to determine where one is headed, not simply be carried by the stream.

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billrogers249 | eNotes Newbie

Posted September 27, 2011 at 2:00 PM (Answer #15)

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Teenagers face any host of pressures, from the changes involving puberty to questions regarding who they are along with where they will fit inside. The particular all-natural transition from child in order to adult may additionally bring parental conflict as teens start in order to assert their independence. Using most this kind of drama, that isn’t constantly easy to differentiate between depression and regular teenage moodiness. Producing issues even more complicated, teens along with depression do not really necessarily look sad, nor do these people often withdraw coming from others. For some depressed teens, signs involving irritability, aggression, as well as rage are more prominent.

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meganp0504 | Student , Undergraduate | Honors

Posted November 3, 2011 at 5:13 AM (Answer #17)

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because love can lead to stalkers or obssessed people or i dont wont her to be with him and since i cant be with him noone can love is weird

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justaquestion | Student , Undergraduate | Salutatorian

Posted November 3, 2011 at 5:59 PM (Answer #18)

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because teenagehood is the period were people don't really control their feelings and emotions and thus that can lead them to dangerous consequences. from a religious point of view, if a teenager falls in love at such age he/she will be controlled by their lust and emotions and they might do stuff they are not supposed to do, such as "having sex, running away... etc" and that is not right thus they should fall in love when they are mature because even for them they will not get hurt at such a young age.

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donbest | Elementary School Teacher | eNotes Newbie

Posted November 14, 2011 at 9:13 PM (Answer #19)

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It's not the love that is dangerous. It's the lack of self control that is missing that is why many in-loved has the capacity to kill. It's either they are crazy, high, or lack of attention. I want to share with you what I know about Fairfax Irrigation VA. They can design a custom sprinkler system from a small patio to a multi acre yard and uses the very best in home sprinkler systems to insure your complete satisfaction with your new home sprinkler system.  Any information you need regarding sports field irrigation; home sprinkler system and Commercial Irrigation, PLEASE CALL Sprinkler Systems Fairfax VA.

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johnsanders1989 | Student , Undergraduate | eNotes Newbie

Posted November 16, 2011 at 8:50 PM (Answer #20)

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Love is only dangerous if you yourself don't have self-control. If you don't have this it is possible for you to do bad to others and even to yourself. Anyway, I want to share with you what I know about Alexandria Irrigation VA. They can design a custom sprinkler system from a small patio to a multi acre yard and uses the very best in home sprinkler systems to insure your complete satisfaction with your new home sprinkler system.  Any information you need regarding sports field irrigation; home sprinkler system and Commercial Irrigation, PLEASE CALL Sprinkler Systems Alexandria VA.

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