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mazzarria | Student, College Freshman | eNotes Newbie

Posted October 21, 2008 at 4:17 AM via web

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What are some pros and cons of same sex marriage?

How do you feel about gay marriage? How do you think gay couples can benefit or not benefit from being in a same sex marriage?

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amy-lepore | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

Posted October 21, 2008 at 7:19 AM (Answer #3)

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Another pro is that many states recognize "common law marriage" so that even though the spouses may be of the same gender, it is possible to keep the house, etc. when one partner dies without legal proof of marriage.

Con: aside from social stigma, the Bible states that homosexuality is a sin.  While the Bible doesn’t address the concept of gay or same sex marriage, the Bible does clearly and consistently tell us that homosexual activity is a sin (Genesis 19:1-13; Leviticus 18:22; Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthians 6:9). God does not create a person with homosexual desires. A person becomes a homosexual because of sin (Romans 1:24-27), and ultimately because of his or her own choice. A person may be born with a greater susceptibility to homosexuality, just as people are born with a tendency to violence and other sins. That does not excuse the person choosing to sin by giving in to their sinful desires. If a person is born with a greater susceptibility to anger / rage, does that make it right for them to give into those desires? Of course not. The same is true for homosexuality.

We also have to remember that homosexuality is just as forgivable a sin as all other sins. God’s forgiveness is just as available to a homosexual as it is to an adulterer, idol worshipper, murderer, liar, proud man, etc. God’s love and desire to save extends to homosexuals (John 3:16; Romans 5:8). God also promises the strength for victory over sin, including homosexuality, to all those who will believe in Jesus Christ for their salvation (1 Corinthians 6:11; 2 Corinthians 5:17).

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kwoo1213 | College Teacher | (Level 2) Educator

Posted October 21, 2008 at 2:58 PM (Answer #4)

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I have no problem with gay marriage and think all of these couples should have the right to marry if they so choose.  To be quite honest, I have a few gay and lesbian friends whose relationships are much more solid than the heterosexual relationships that other friends of mine have.  I also think gay and lesbian couples should be able to have the same rights that heterosexual couples are afforded once married.

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timbrady | College Teacher | (Level 1) Educator

Posted October 21, 2008 at 3:26 PM (Answer #5)

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I have no problem with gay/lesbian relationships, whether they are more or less stable than "traditional" relationships.  I do have a problem with calling them marriages ... "civil unions" should get them the rights they want ... but I think it's more about equalizing the relationships than granting rights.  Some words should probably have a constant meaning (although I do know that language is fluid etc. etc.).  Language is something that we need to take seriously since it's our interface with "reality."  I would suggest a reading of Orwell's "Politics and the English Language"  http://www.orwell.ru/library/essays/politics/english/e_polit if you are interested in this topic.

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viiccttoorr | Student, Grade 9 | eNotes Newbie

Posted April 1, 2009 at 9:46 PM (Answer #7)

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I do not have a problem with gay/lesbian people/marriages, and think that they should have the same right to marry if they want to. But a problem I do have is that by passing PORP 8 it is breaking the first amendment. To be more specific it is breaking the right to express yourself. I don't see what the problem is with gay marriage it is the same thing as regular marriage except they are the same sex. It's not like their aliens, but that is how people are acting so rudely to homosexual's. Heterosexuals and Homosexual's do the same exact things like love each other, kiss, hug, cook, hold hands, live together, ect.    

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nyah | Student, Undergraduate | eNotes Newbie

Posted June 29, 2009 at 9:30 AM (Answer #8)

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According to the word of god homeosexuality is condemned by the the bible. He created Adam and than made a woman. This is what god has ordained and it is what it is right. 

Lev. 18:22 "You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination."

just become someone is a homeosexual does not mean we cannot love him or pray for him.

jesus loves you and he has a better plan for your life. hear me when i say this. Jesus can never fail you.....

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timbrady | College Teacher | (Level 1) Educator

Posted June 29, 2009 at 12:20 PM (Answer #9)

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I do not have a problem with gay/lesbian people/marriages, and think that they should have the same right to marry if they want to. But a problem I do have is that by passing PORP 8 it is breaking the first amendment. To be more specific it is breaking the right to express yourself. I don't see what the problem is with gay marriage it is the same thing as regular marriage except they are the same sex. It's not like their aliens, but that is how people are acting so rudely to homosexual's. Heterosexuals and Homosexual's do the same exact things like love each other, kiss, hug, cook, hold hands, live together, ect.    

  I don't think the First Amendmend guarantees "the right to express yourself."  It protects free speech, and it has been applied to almost anything including campaign funding.  For example, can I express myself by painting graffiti on your car/house?    There may be arguments that support gay or lesbian marriage, and although I much prefer civil unions; I don't think that this one is correct.

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krishna-agrawala | College Teacher | Valedictorian

Posted June 29, 2009 at 7:22 PM (Answer #10)

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I see marriage as the first step in formation of one very important unit or group of people of which any society is made. This group is, of course, family.

Thus marriage much more than either sex or good friendship. It is also is a agreement between husband and wife to give birth to children with which both of them can identify closely. They also agree to look after each other and to raise their children with love and care, and make them capable and good adults.

One may argue that that same sex couple may also be able to do that. But there are several limitations. In terms of having children, same sex couples are not as self sufficient as heterosexual couples. Thus, in this matter a heterosexual couple can be, at best, a second best alternative.

Also, in spite of all the talk about equality of sexes, there are some differences between men and women. For example, women in general are more relationship oriented and emotional. These difference between sexes helps heterosexual couple partners great complement each others strengths and weaknesses better than what is possible in same sex partners. In this way heterosexual couples create more well being and happiness for themselves and also for their children.

I see very little advantage of same sex marriage except the satisfaction and enjoyment for the people getting in to such arrangement.

I do not want to oppose same sex marriages. People who like it should be free to enter in to such relationships. IN this society we let people do many things as per their likes and dislikes. For example, people who like it are free to smoke, but smoking is not something that I would like to recommend to anyone.

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ask996 | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Senior Educator

Posted April 18, 2010 at 7:26 AM (Answer #11)

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What it comes down to is legalization and rights. Obviously heterosexual marriage partners are guaranteed rights. People in cohabitating relationships--including gay and lesbian partners have less guaranteed rights. Let’s leave it at that because we all probably know gay and lesbian relationships that are more loving and healthy than some heterosexual relationships.

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James Kelley | College Teacher | (Level 1) Educator

Posted October 4, 2010 at 8:04 AM (Answer #12)

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I agree with ask996's reply, as I understand it. To answer the posted question, responses really should focus at least a little on the pragmatic aspects of the problem, not (at the risk of offending, I'll write it!) simply serve up some outdated philosophies and quote passages from religious texts.

As I see it, one big "pro" of gay marriage is that, as ask996 seems to imply, gay marriage would lead to a more equitable extension of some basic rights and privileges (including, but not at all limited to financial and health matters, such as inheritance, partner benefits, and hospital visitation rights).

And, again as I see, one big "con" is that many people would be offended by gay marriage because their long-held views would be challenged. Many people (including several people posting here) seem less offended, for example, if the term "civil union" is used in place of "marriage." That difference in terminology may suggest to them a continued difference in the status or value or meaning of the two types of relationships, straight and gay.

To me, the whole debate surrounding the term "gay marriage" shows the current limits of acceptance among many people. Many of us seem to be stuck in a single track of thought and to be adhering to that deeply flawed and unconstitutional concept of "separate but equal."

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engtchr5 | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Associate Educator

Posted October 21, 2008 at 5:58 AM (Answer #2)

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 You may wish to re-categorize this question -- it seems more appropriate for the political science group or something similar. But since you asked,

Pros: Marriage of any gender encourages and promotes stability, accountability, and monogamy. By remaining with a single partner, the likelihood of disease transmission is minimal, and such behavior may prevent STDs of epidemic proportions.

Cons: In states where same-sex marriage has been legalized, statistics show that a majority of the contracts fail within a short time period (six months to a year). Same sex marriage encourages the failure of the marital establishment. The same, however, could be said of interracial marriages, which statistics reveal to be highly unsuccessful. Moreover, by encouraging same-sex partnerships, society is lending itself toward the Greco-Roman mentality: both empires fell when their governments began allowing mass sodomy, public homosexuality, and other socially deviant behaviors, and anarchy and financial ruin followed shortly thereafter.    

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zumba96 | Student, Grade 11 | Valedictorian

Posted April 30, 2014 at 3:27 AM (Answer #14)

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Honestly it's their life so it should be their choice of who they marry and who they don't. It's not like most same-sex couples are trying to judge you on your sexuality so why do we do this to same sex couples? The only difference is they are attracted to the same sex but in reality it doesn't matter

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zumba96 | Student, Grade 11 | Valedictorian

Posted June 30, 2014 at 6:04 PM (Answer #15)

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I think that same sex couples should be allowed because it is their life and they chose who they wanted to spend their lives with so why are we trying to separate and stop this, it isn't fair. Gay marriage should be allowed and there should be equality for all. 

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ik9744 | TA , Grade 9 | Valedictorian

Posted September 8, 2014 at 11:02 PM (Answer #16)

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This is my personal opinion about gay marriage:

The bible states homosexual as a sin so I disapprove it. I don't want to offend anyone here but I can't really think of a pro for gay marriage. As long as they're happy it's a pro. Aside from that there is some cons, for example you wouldn't be able to reproduce. Yes, you could adopt a child but what if the child disapprove of it when they grow up? They might be mad at a young age for not having a mother. So my opinion is that I disapprove of gay marriage. 

Shorter answer:

I disapprove of gay marriage, because the bible said it's a sin. The child can get teased at school for it, and might hate that he/she doesn't have a mother.

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lawless1669 | Student, Undergraduate | eNotes Newbie

Posted May 6, 2012 at 5:20 AM (Answer #13)

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According to the word of god homeosexuality is condemned by the the bible. He created Adam and than made a woman. This is what god has ordained and it is what it is right. 

Lev. 18:22 "You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination."

just become someone is a homeosexual does not mean we cannot love him or pray for him.

jesus loves you and he has a better plan for your life. hear me when i say this. Jesus can never fail you.....

if you are going to quote leviticus from the bible why dont you say all of it, and not just pick and choose the stuff you think sounds good....

have a nice day :)

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