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What does it mean when a girl makes eye contact with a guy? So I'm an 18 year old guy...

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mrcoolguy555 | Student, College Freshman | Honors

Posted April 9, 2013 at 3:41 PM via web

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What does it mean when a girl makes eye contact with a guy?

So I'm an 18 year old guy in my first year of college. In one of my classes there is this beautiful girl that sits across the room from me. The first day of class I noticed her right away. It is now getting to the end of the semester (only 4 weeks left and I have the class twice a week). Ever since the first week of class, me and this girl make eye contact a lot. And at first I thought it was random that we happened to make eye contact, but now I realize it's not random because it has been happening since the 1st week. For instance today, we kept making eye contact about every 5 minutes or so. But it's not a long stare, it's like we see each other and look away within a second. I do catch her sometimes looking at me when I'm not. Sometimes I will look in her direction and see her just starting to look away from me. I have an idea what this all means, but I'm not sure. I haven't had a girlfriend since like 9th grade, so I'm not the most confident guy out there. I know you will just say, "be more confident and go talk to her", but it's not that simple. The class is only twice a week, an hour and 15 minutes each class. And this is the only time I see her on campus. Now the problem is, I can't really just go talk to her because I have a another class 15 minutes after this one and it's across campus. So I can't just like start a conversation because it takes like 10 minutes to get across campus. And a lot of the time she gets out of the class before I do and by the time I get out she's gone. So I'm kind of worried I'll lose any chance I would have had with her because there isn't many weeks left of this semester and there's a pretty good possibility I won't see her ever again. Mainly because I doubt we will be in another class together and we have a big campus, so running into each other going to classes is a very slim chance. For all I know, she could even be transferring to another school and then I will have no chance at all of seeing her again. I feel like I should have tried to talk to her earlier, but I wasn't confident enough, I guess I was hoping she would approach me which I knew wouldn't happen, and the time to try to talk to her is slim because of my next class. So please I would like some good advice if anyone has been in this position and an honest opinion on what I should do.
Thanks in advance for your time and advice!

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litteacher8 | Middle School Teacher | (Level 1) Distinguished Educator

Posted April 9, 2013 at 3:57 PM (Answer #1)

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If the girl is making eye contact with you, she is likely interested in you.  Do you two always sit in the same seats?  I know people tend to sit in the same seat, even if it is not assigned.  Sit closer to her!  She will notice.  As soon as the class ends, strike up a conversation.  You may be late to your next class, but it does not take long to exchange phone numbers.  Ask her if she is interested in meeting you for coffee at a local campus hangout.  All she can say is no, and then you will know!

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William Delaney | (Level 3) Educator Emeritus

Posted April 9, 2013 at 10:34 PM (Answer #3)

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Join the club! Your feelings have been experienced by umpteen-million other young guys over the centuries. If the girl is so important to you, then you ought to miss the next class just once. It's called "cutting." Then you could have plenty of time to approach her and walk with her to wherever she is going. The chances are about a million to one that the girl is making eye contact with you because she wants to meet you. That's how girls are, dude. If they want to get to know you, they make eye contact, and if they don't want to get to know you, they're very good at avoiding eye contact. But, being a girl, she doesn't feel she should be the one to make the first move.

Why don't you just approach her right after class and say, "Hi, my name's _____. What's yours?" And then, "I've been wanting to meet you for a long time. Can I walk along with you?" You don't have to allude to the fact that you two have been playing peek-a-boo for the whole semester. College is a place where guys meet girls and girls meet guys. There's nothing sinister about approaching a girl in your same class. You already have a relationship because you go to the same school and you're taking the same class.

Do it at the next class meeting. Shakespeare says:

The flighty purpose never is o'ertook
Unless the deed go with it.

Invite her to have coffee with you sometime right on the campus. No doubt you'll have plenty to talk about if you're both taking the same class.

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mrcoolguy555 | Student, College Freshman | Honors

Posted April 9, 2013 at 4:02 PM (Answer #2)

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If the girl is making eye contact with you, she is likely interested in you.  Do you two always sit in the same seats?  I know people tend to sit in the same seat, even if it is not assigned.  Sit closer to her!  She will notice.  As soon as the class ends, strike up a conversation.  You may be late to your next class, but it does not take long to exchange phone numbers.  Ask her if she is interested in meeting you for coffee at a local campus hangout.  All she can say is no, and then you will know!

Yes everyone in the class sits in the same seats. She sits in the very first seat in the first row all the way to the right, then I sit in the 2 seat in the last row all the way to the left of the class. We are basically exactly across from the classroom from each other. So all of the seats around her are always taken, so I don't want to steal someones seat. I know I should just man up and talk to her, but I'm not good at starting a conversation. I'd feel awkward. I'm not socially awkward at all either, I just don't know how I'd talk to a girl I like. It's kind of hard to explain, but yea lol. Thanks for your answer. That's definitely what I have to do, but I just don't know "how" as stupid as that sounds.

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mrcoolguy555 | Student, College Freshman | Honors

Posted April 9, 2013 at 11:05 PM (Answer #4)

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Join the club! Your feelings have been experienced by umpteen-million other young guys over the centuries. If the girl is so important to you, then you ought to miss the next class just once. It's called "cutting." Then you could have plenty of time to approach her and walk with her to wherever she is going. The chances are about a million to one that the girl is making eye contact with you because she wants to meet you. That's how girls are, dude. If they want to get to know you, they make eye contact, and if they don't want to get to know you, they're very good at avoiding eye contact. But, being a girl, she doesn't feel she should be the one to make the first move.

Why don't you just approach her right after class and say, "Hi, my name's _____. What's yours?" And then, "I've been wanting to meet you for a long time. Can I walk along with you?" You don't have to allude to the fact that you two have been playing peek-a-boo for the whole semester. College is a place where guys meet girls and girls meet guys. There's nothing sinister about approaching a girl in your same class. You already have a relationship because you go to the same school and you're taking the same class.

Do it at the next class meeting. Shakespeare says:

The flighty purpose never is o'ertook
Unless the deed go with it.

Invite her to have coffee with you sometime right on the campus. No doubt you'll have plenty to talk about if you're both taking the same class.

You are so right, I'm definitely going to approach her next class. I understand that I can't expect her to make the move because there's a really high chance she won't. So I will. Thank you for the advice, I appreciate it

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acompanioninthetardis | TA , Undergraduate | Valedictorian

Posted May 28, 2014 at 10:34 PM (Answer #5)

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if you are 100% sure she was making eye contact with you then come to class early, try to catch her outside of class before it starts and casually ask her if she can provide help in the subject you're studying. if she says no then ask her if you two want to work together to see if you can help each other understand it better. if she still says no then let her be. but if she says yes, which in this case he looks liek she will. congratulations! you have had your first study group with her where ou can get to know her more and exchange numbers.

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acompanioninthetardis | TA , Undergraduate | Valedictorian

Posted May 28, 2014 at 10:35 PM (Answer #6)

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If you are 100% sure she was making eye contact with you then come to class early, try to catch her outside of class before it starts and casually ask her if she can provide help in the subject you're studying. If she says no then ask her if you two want to work together to see if you can help each other understand it better. If she still says no then let her be. But if she says yes, which in this case he looks like she will. Congratulations! You have had your first study group with her where you can get to know her more and exchange numbers.

*sorry had some errors*

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laurto | TA , Grade 10 | Valedictorian

Posted May 31, 2014 at 6:19 PM (Answer #7)

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Girls have a habit of looking at the people they like. It's not in creepy way or to make you feel uncomfortable, it's just to see if you notice her and to see how you act and what you're like. This girl must like you or at least find you good looking. You should definitely talk to her. You never know, this could be the start of something new. 

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Wiggin42 | TA , Grade 11 | Valedictorian

Posted June 29, 2014 at 10:34 PM (Answer #8)

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Maybe you can talk to one of her friends to find a time when you both are free to talk? I don't suggest skipping class. You (or your parents) are paying cold hard cash to go to college, don't waste that money by skipping a class for a girl who may or may not be into you. 

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