What do you think the poem "Living in Sin" by Adrienne Rich is about?

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mstultz72 | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

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Adrienne Rich uses a female speaker to show the loss of Romanticism in a premarital cohabitation that the speaker thought would sustain itself, but now she is having to clean up some of the mess and put away some minor demons.

The apartment is a metonym for the couple's relationship.  The speaker thought it would keep itself, but now--over time--she has come resigned to the fact that it is work, that much of the idealism about the new apartment (relationship) has worn off.  She's not condemning marriage or men, but she's having to become the domesticated woman that she had not envisioned she'd be.  The minor demons (her mother, or society) are bothering her in that she can hear them say, "I told you so."  She feels social expectations weighing on her and the pangs of guilt ("Living in Sin") are felt the morning after.  Indeed, relationships--married or not--are messy, and hard work, especially in the morning.

The poem reminds me of the scene in Act III of Romeo and Juliet, after the newly married couple has spent their first night together.  The scene takes place in the morning, like this one.  Juliet wants Romeo to leave before he is discovered; she is the Realist who worries for his safety.  Romeo, the Romantic, would rather be caught and killed than leave his love.  The honeymoon was over; it was the last time they would see each other alive.

This poem is obviously less tragic, but the dualities are the same, except the female speaker was once a Romantic (or she still is, but only at night), and now she is a Realist (in the morning).  The couples' nights are filled with passion, as evidenced by the cheese and three empty wine bottles.  But, by morning, the romance has worn off: the piano is out of tune; she's got to dust the table with a towel; he can't wait to leave.  The milkman's early morning wakeup call is a reality check.

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pohnpei397 | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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In my opinion, this poem is about the reality of love and life as opposed to the romantic vision of it.

The woman in the poem had thought that love would be this pristine, romantic thing.  But as it turns out, love is much more mundane.  Love turns out to involve ashtrays and making the bed and dusting the furniture.  The person she loves also turns out not to be so consistently romantic.

So I think the poem is really about how living with someone that you love is about more than flowers and romance.

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