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loraaa | Student | Valedictorian

Posted December 31, 2011 at 12:43 PM via web

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What is the appropriate age for marriage?

What is the appropriate age for marriage?

I think  appropriate age>>>>>>>>>>  twenty.....^_^
 Because my grandmother's very sad because my older sister has reached 26 years ... and she did get married.

 My grandmother says that my sister became a "spinster"!!!!^_^
 My sister and I laugh a lot from my grandmother tips ...........

 "On how to hunt a good man">>>>>>^_^

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vangoghfan | College Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

Posted December 31, 2011 at 1:31 PM (Answer #2)

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Ideas about the "proper" age for marriage vary from person to person and sometimes from culture to culture. For whatever it may or may not be worth, my opinion is that marriage before age 20 is probably not a wise decision in most cases.  I would even suggest waiting until the mid-20s or later. The important thing is to find the right person so that the marriage can be a happy one and can last.

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coachingcorner | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Educator

Posted December 31, 2011 at 4:32 PM (Answer #3)

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I think it is difficult to form a new family unit and to shelter nurture and raise children before a young person has properly grown up himself or herself. There might be issues of 'unfinished business' to deal with which may impact negatively on the partnership and the parenting of dependent children. Sometimes the sudden obligations and responsibilities can seem onerous and tiresome. It might be better to get things like travelling, education and early career moves out of the way first to create a solid foundation.

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accessteacher | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

Posted December 31, 2011 at 6:34 PM (Answer #4)

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This is a question that depends very much on culture and context. It wasn't long ago that it was expected for teenagers as young as 11, 12 and 13 to marry. In some cultures, marriages occurred even younger. Of course, today we operate in a very different world that necessitates a different approach. I personally married at 21, which was fine for me, though I don't recomment it for every 21 year old!

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literaturenerd | High School Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

Posted January 1, 2012 at 12:09 AM (Answer #5)

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I agree that the appropriate age for marriage differs. There is no age for which all cultures agree on. For me, I would think that a person needs to be ready to support a family and be self-reliant. Mental maturity is important as well. There simply is no appropriate age for everyone.

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lsumner | High School Teacher | (Level 2) Senior Educator

Posted January 1, 2012 at 1:48 AM (Answer #6)

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I married at age twenty which was too young for me. I did not take the time to weigh out my decision against the fact that my spouse and I were opposites. We were so different. We had absolutely noting in common. We tried to make the marriage work for years, but we grew further apart after our children left for college.

After twenty-five years of struggling to make it work, we called it quits and divorced. Now, at age fifty-two, I realize I did not know what I was doing at age twenty.

I believe persons should marry at age twenty-eight or thirty. Maturity will help one choose the spouse that will help a marriage lasts a lifetime.

My son married at age twenty-eight. He and his spouse seem vey happy. I believe the older a person is before marriage, the better. Maturity is the key in making the right decision about marriage.

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lmetcalf | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Senior Educator

Posted January 1, 2012 at 4:53 AM (Answer #7)

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I married at 30 and it was the right time for me. My husband and I were each comfortable and established in our careers. We had been through some important relationship trials in the many years we dated. While we probably could have married earlier and been just fine, this has worked for us. My only regret is not starting my family a little sooner. We had our share of pregnancy related issues that may not have been so difficult in my twenties.

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mwestwood | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

Posted January 1, 2012 at 5:31 AM (Answer #8)

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While the age of maturing differs from individual to individual--and cultural beliefs do indeed enter into this question--statistics in America show that younger marriages seem doomed to failure.  While there are many vairables that contribute to this statistic, financial difficulties and maturity levels are certainly contributors.  Often it is much better to become established in one's career and have some financial and emotional stability and truly knowing different personality types and with whom one is most compatible before taking on the responsibilities associated with marriage -- not to mention the potential for an addition of a third member to this marriage.

You may wish to view the following link:

http://www.divorcerate.org/

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litlady33 | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Assistant Educator

Posted January 1, 2012 at 8:21 AM (Answer #9)

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It differs between individuals and cultures. In my experience, the longer a person waits to get married, the better, because that person is able to figure out who he/she is as a person. This is essential when entering into a marriage because a person cannot commit to a partnership and nurture a relationship properly if he/she does not know what he/she wants. On the other hand, getting married young could be acceptable and even encouraged in a culture where that is the standard. I am engaged and will be 26 on my wedding day. Ten or twenty years ago this would have seemed normal or even old; however, people around me and in my culture are getting married at later ages, so 26 feels young to be getting married. I know I am ready, though, and have the right partner, so I know it is the right decision for me.

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wannam | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Educator

Posted January 2, 2012 at 2:42 AM (Answer #10)

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The appropriate age for marriage depends a lot upon the culture and the individual.  Many individuals are not ready for marriage at an early age.  In America, the culture has moved toward later marriage ages than previously accepted.  26 was once past the age of marriage, but it is no longer.  Many people now marry in their late twenties or early thirties.  I think the improvements in western medicine leading to longer lives has something to do with it.  We also have a culture where it is acceptable for a woman to attend a university and have a career of her own.  Many women now chose to marry later because they want to persue other personal goals first.  I'm sure, in your grandmother's time, things were a little different.

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