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Regarding the different types of love, What did you think the pros and cons...

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falusiea78 | Student, Undergraduate | eNotes Newbie

Posted March 5, 2010 at 12:57 PM via web

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Regarding the different types of love, What did you think the pros and cons of LOVE are (how love can help us/ how love can complicate our lives).

Regarding the different types of love, What did you think the pros and cons of LOVE are (how love can help us/ how love can complicate our lives).

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pohnpei397 | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

Posted March 5, 2010 at 1:00 PM (Answer #2)

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Love helps us by giving our lives meaning, in my opinion.  If we are without anyone to love, or anyone to love us, we have very little to live for and very little to make us happy.

Of course, love can complicate our lives.  It can mainly do this by making us care so deeply for other people that they become vital to our lives.  This is usually good, but it becomes a problem or at least a complication when those people have troubles.   Their troubles become our troubles, and our lives are more complicated that they would otherwise have been.

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Michelle Ossa | College Teacher | (Level 3) Educator Emeritus

Posted March 5, 2010 at 1:07 PM (Answer #3)

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The three types of love according to philosophy are: Eros, Philos, and Agape.

Eros is the one that complicates our lives the most. Eros, like the word implies, rests on the physical side of love which is sometimes superficial, easily manipulated, and lusty. It is the type of love most of us love to feel because it activates all the right hormones that make us feel good, and gives  us the giggles a lot.

Contrarily, Philos is the platonic love existing among friends. It is like the word says philosophically induced because whoever experiences it is a person who is joined by one who shares similar interests, and past times. Philosis less likely to be as troublesome as Eros, because Philos seeks no immediate satisfaction and tends to grow with time, as the two persons get to know each other.

Agape, the unconditional, sacrificial, endless, altruistic, and selfless love has to be taken with care, because we sometimes confuse it with Eros in terms of its intensity. However, Eros is a romantic and sexual love while Agape is a sincere affection that surpasses one's own self love and which involves sacrifices. Agape, to me, is the type of love a mother feels for her child, or for God, or for a higher power. Something that one is willing to go on Lent for, or sacrifice ones own pleasure's for their best interest. In this, Agape can help us become better persons and understand what true love is.

Eros, however, helps us very little because it is ephemeral; it goes away as soon  as the hormones run out, or as soon as philos comes in and ruins the romance. But the truth is that out of the three, Agape is the highest, and Eros is the big trouble maker.

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booksnmore | College Teacher | (Level 3) Adjunct Educator

Posted March 5, 2010 at 2:06 PM (Answer #4)

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Most of us couldn't survive (at least not well) without love. But love causes us to feel crazy things...sometimes do crazy things. Agape love, however, is a love of pureness. If we're on the giving end of it, it may cause us to make the ultimate sacrifice. If we're on the receiving end, it's the purest most sacrificial thing that anyone can offer us.

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lrwilliams | College Teacher | (Level 3) Associate Educator

Posted March 5, 2010 at 3:06 PM (Answer #5)

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I think our live would be much more complicated without love. Think about not having someone in your life that you love or someone that loves you. Who would we share the highs and lows of our lives with?

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nusratfarah | College Teacher | Valedictorian

Posted March 5, 2010 at 10:27 PM (Answer #6)

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I am going to put here my subjective view.

I think that, when a lover becomes (a) over-emotional, (b) over-possessive, and (c) fanciful and starts daydreaming - his or her love is going to have a negative impact on the person.

This sort of love creates complications.

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epollock | Valedictorian

Posted March 6, 2010 at 7:28 AM (Answer #7)

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Love does allow people to bond and later procreate, but love can also be consuming, especially when one partner no longer feels love or is in love with the other. It can also be quite destructive in promoting jealousy, anger and promoting violence.

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krishna-agrawala | College Teacher | Valedictorian

Posted March 10, 2010 at 5:22 AM (Answer #8)

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The varied views expressed in the previous posts, is a testimony to the fact that love means different thing to different people. I do not wish to argue with any to decide who is right and who is wrong. I believe, in a matter so subjective, everyone is entitled to whatever version of love he or she prefers.

All that i want to suggest that if so many versions of love are available to us to choose from, why not choose one that has maximum pros and minimum cons? Or is it that many different things are described under the name of love, and we need all or many of these things so we are not really free to choose just one type of love.

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besure77 | Middle School Teacher | (Level 1) Senior Educator

Posted May 31, 2010 at 10:20 AM (Answer #9)

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I believe that love is very important in life. It can cause both happiness and sadness, depending on the situation. I think that people learn a lot of life lessons from love. Love can take the form of friendship, intimacy, passion, brotherly, obsessive, or possessive. There are both positive and negative aspects to love.

Love can complicate our lives because if we lose someone we love, it hurts.

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ako6777 | Middle School Teacher | (Level 1) Associate Educator

Posted June 16, 2010 at 7:04 AM (Answer #10)

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The pros to having love in your life are always having someone you can talk to, feeling important to someone else, and hopefully having someone you can depend on.

Some of the cons of having someone in your life to love are worrying about another, needing to consult with the person before making decisions, and having to deal with their family.

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