I have a lot of friends who like to hang out with me but it's always a distraction for me because i have school work. I'm passing most of my classes except english. But I want to bring all my grades up and still have all of the free time I usually use up. I need a teachers advise.
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While it is best to find a good balance between work and play, you have to remember that the "work" comes first. As you are learning, you can't get back wasted time, and while I would argue we all need to waste a little time, we have to be careful. My best advice would be to make the most of all of the "smaller" opportunities you have to get work done during the school day. If a teacher gives you a few minutes to get started on a homework assignment -- use that time. So often I see students just pack up for the day when they could gave knocked off a good portion of the assignment if they had just maximized the time, rather than saying "oh well, what's a few minutes...I would rather chat with my friends." If you don't need your whole lunch period to eat, you could leave the cafeteria and go to the library where there are fewer distractions and get some homework done there. If you get to school early, don't socialize in hallway for 30 minutes -- spend 20 of them in the library first and then spend a few minutes catching up with friends. I am sure that you will be surprised at how easy it is to squeeze out a few extra minutes for work at school so that you have more time after school to be with friends and do the fun stuff. It is amazing how a few minutes here and there really add up.
It's hard to argue with the excellent suggestions made in the first post. If you are really serious about school, it should always come before your outside social life. School generally provides plenty of social interaction anyway, and there are always the weekends and summer to spend with your friends. It may be that your friends don't have as tough a time academically as you, or perhaps they just aren't as motivated as you seem. You must realize that not all students can do well in school without studying. Although I did well in high school (I felt as if I "floated" through most of it), I always spent a great deal of time researching important projects and studying for tests. I was pretty poor in math, and I spent more time just trying to make a "C" in those classes than I did making "A's" and "B's" in my other classes. If you are not passing English, spend more time on it than your other subjects; if bypassing an hour or two each day with your friends is necessary, by all means realize that passing your classes is much more important in the long run than whatever time you spend killing with your friends.
With many subjects (especially English), it's best to stay ahead in your projects. Start in on papers and homework as soon as it is assigned rather than several days or weeks later. I found that I had a lot more free time when I just got the work done with first. My work was better and I was able to have much more fun because I didn't have to worry about my assignments. With term papers especially, I found that I was able to focus and work far more efficiently if I completed the assignment while it was fresh in my mind. If I procrastinated, it was much harder, took a lot longer, and my work wasn't as good. Of course, I don't mean you should start in on your homework during class time, but just don't put it off once you are out of school.
There is absolutely no substitute for time spent studying. The concentrated time that you spend on subjects will be proportionate to your success. And, remember that perseverance is not a long race, but a series of short races, one after another. Here are some inspiring words,
Be curious always! For knowledge will no acquire you, you must acquire it. - Sudie Bock
A love of learning will serve you all the days of your life. People come and go, but knowledge is permanent and true.
If you really show an interest in learning, your teachers are likely to take a special interest in you. Their interest, in turn, will help make you even more motivated to learn. Teachers love students who really make an effort and who seem to really want to learn. Best wishes to you.
Why not establishing a time for spending with friends, and a time for working? If you tell your friends not to bother you between certain hours they will respect your wishes if they really are your friends. Try getting all work done on weekdays, so you can spend weekends with them.
As a student, in a similar situation as you, if they are your friends then they should understand that you still have a responsibility to your education. Peers are supposed to encourage your success and endeavors, not make you feel unfocused. If I were you, I would set aside time to study during the weekdays, after school, or get tutoring from your teachers during their office hours. When you feel that you are confident in what you've studied, then you can hang out with them during the weekends, unless you have a big test the next day.
If you have a phone and end up texting them a lot, set a slot of time open to where you can just focus on you and your studies. Turn off all distractions. It also helps to get motivated and look at the end goal of what you can accomplish. You should hang out with them but not to the point where it distracts you.
Health. Social Life. Academics. You can only pick two. I'm sure you've heard of this before and I'm sorry to say its fairly true. If you want to improve your academics and maintain your health (adequate sleep and food etc), you will have to tone down your social life. If this means hanging out with fewer friends, only going out once a week, or not texting after 6pm so be it. You will have to prioritize.
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