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What enables the father's mind to change in "Marriage is a Private Affair"?

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princezzin | Student, Grade 10 | (Level 1) eNoter

Posted June 21, 2012 at 9:49 AM via web

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What enables the father's mind to change in "Marriage is a Private Affair"?

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Ashley Kannan | Middle School Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

Posted June 21, 2012 at 11:39 AM (Answer #1)

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Part of Achebe's descriptive strength in the short story is that he does not inundate the reader with the reasons as to why Okeke changes his mind. He enables the moment within which the change happens and allows the complexity of this instant of change, what Kushner would call "the threshold of revelation," wash over the resolution of the story and the reader. It is here where I think exploration is needed. In terms of the story itself,Okeke receives a letter from Nene , his rejected and ostracized daughter-in-law, informing him that he has two grandsons who wish to see their grandfather and that she is sending them along with their father to see him while she is not. In this, a moment is created in which Okeke realizes that he has moved past being a father and into the realm of grandfather. He begins to recognize, for a brief instant, that the disagreement with his son over choice of wife is moot with the present of two grandsons. Yet, even then, the father wishes to hold on to his resistance, his defiance over his son's disobedience. However, in a moment, he looks out the window and his resolve to his anger diminishes:

The sky was overcast with heavy black clouds and a high wind began to blow, filling the air with dust and dry leaves. It was one of those rare occasions when even Nature takes a hand in a human fight. Very soon it began to rain, the first rain in the year. It came down in large sharp drops and was accompanied by the lightning and thunder which mark a change of season.

In this connection between the natural world and Okeke's condition, the change of seasons almost indicates a maturation. It is here in which Okeke realizes that this change also means that there could be a dark side in that he might never get to see his grandchildren. With only one son, this is a decision that haunts him, terrifying him and filling him with regret as to both rejecting them for so long and not getting the chance to do right by them. With the ending of the story as one in which Okeke "hardly slept- from remorse", it becomes clear that the combination of this instant, a revelation that goes along with it, and the reflection of its implications caused by nature all collude to create a condition in which Okeke recognizes his own folly and seems to be running from his own actions to ensure that such mistakes are not long term ones.

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