How do parents influence children in life?
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There are many ways that parents can influence their children. I would say that these tend to fall into two categories -- children can choose to pattern themselves after what they see their parents do or they can choose to avoid being like their parents.
In large part, we as children are shaped by what we see our parents do and how we see them act. I know that I have tried to model myself after my parents in many ways because I think they have done many things right.
On the other hand, there are things that I think they have done wrong and I consciously try to avoid doing those things. But either way, the way I live my life has been influenced by them.
This is such a broad question, there are many avenues from which to tackle it.
I'm going to propose looking at it through the lens of religion. Most world religions support the traditional family structure as well as encourage large families because it is a quick and effective way to multiply numbers. Consider the growth of Islam in Europe today. It is quickly becoming one of the most highly represented religions (even in Western Europe) not due to evangelism and conversion, but due to the simple fact that Muslims are having more children.
And this isn't a trend that is isolated to one world religion. Consider Catholics or Mormons. Here are two religions that encourage large families and consider a man blessed by the number of children he has.
Based on this, it could be probably be argued that choice of faith or religion is most highly influenced by parents. Consider how many people in the world who may not consider themselves "religious" would say, if asked what they believe and why, "Well, I guess I believe what my parents believed. It's what I knew growing up..." My guess would be a lot.
I would say that the exposure to values and beliefs would be one of the strongest influences that parents have over children in their lives. The manner in which parents expose their children to values or ideas become extremely important for children over time. For example, it is a challenge for some students to do well in school if they are in an environment where education is not valued nor is supported. At the same time, if parents teach values that are antithetical to society, it increases the likelihood that they might embrace these values as absolutes. Naturally, children do have freedom and autonomy. They are not robots programmed by their parents. Yet, the values and ideas imparted by parents to children and supported by the home setting helps to enhance potentially good and not so good habits being formed.
Indeed, children are most influenced by their parents because they are with the parents for the largest part of their daily lives. Parents are therefore the best teachers for the children.
Children learn to speak and move and respond to the world without under the loving care of their parents.
Parents are the people they see most, and imitate most. All the simple values of life, such as love, goodness, sympathy, respect for others are to be basically learned from the parents.
Children go to schools, but their basic education is very much under the guidance of their parents.
The entire grooming of children depends on the care and concern of their parents.
These are the reasons why proper growth of children may hamper in case of parental neglect, especially if parents are divided/separated. Parents are, truly, friends, philosophers and guides for the children.
Parents can influence children in many ways throughout their lives. One influence my parents had on me was to value education. They taught me how to work for what i want and to never let anyone or anything stand in my way. That taught me to look past fear and to explore new areas in life.
Parents can teach their children invaluable lessons just by the way they handle everyday situations and they respond to events.
The list is endless. As a teacher I see a student for five hours per week (assuming they are there each day), and for 18 or 36 weeks depending on the class. 90 to 180 hours per student. It often makes me wonder why all the hubbub and fuss about what is being taught in the schools when parents spend exponentially greater time with their children then we do. A parent tends to greatly influence a child's belief system, from religion to politics to personal values and habits. They socialize them into the world and (hopefully) monitor their involvement with it. Parents are the single largest factor, in my opinion, in determining a child's success or failure in life.
If children have bad parents they can influence them to have bad choices and if a parent smokes or drinks, when they are gone, they kid is bound to try them. Also, if the parents cuss a lot at home the kid is bound to have a bad mouth
Parents play a HUGE role in a child's life. From the moment they are born, kids in basically any species try to follow or imitate the adult. If kids at a young age are heavily impacted by a memory caused by a parent, they can be scarred and create distancing between whatever scared them. they also if raised under strict rules, can grow up to be very close minded and sometimes without reason...well their reasoning would be something along the lines of this is the right way or this is the way my papa/mama used to do things, etc.. Kids, since they're young blindly follow their parents, and imitate what their parents do because they realize subconsciously that their parents have more experience then them and that if they have survived this long in the real world, then so can they. Just my thoughts though.
Children likes to imitate their parents. Actions speak louder than the words. Instead of giving empty advises,parents has a power to shape lives of the children.by
Trusting to take responsibility in day to day life.
Leading a life with values and passion
Positive approach in life problems.
Never giving up on any projects.
community involvement by volunteering.
Parents views ,success and failure can influence the children so it is imperative that all the parents should lead a life that motivates the children to become better person.
To children, their parents would be the most influential people in their lives especially during childhood. The parents are naturally the first people a kid can trust. They are his or her role models. Mother's are our first teachers and father's are our own personal heroes. A child who grows up with parents has great and healthy social relationships.
However, in an alternate context, if a child doesn't have good parents or have none at all, it still affects the child emotionally, mentally and psychologically. The child could carry emotional burden up until he gets old. He or she could build up walls and push people away.
Bottom line is, everything the parents do, and everything they don't do would still consequentially affect the child.
Parents can influence their kids in a lot of ways, if a kid is rowdy and rude and their parent never controlled them, not only will it create trouble in the future but if their parents never gave them a proper uprising, it could be the parents fault as well. When kids drink beer and liquor from their parents stash because their parents drink it, it is not a good idea nor good morals yet if a parent has a bad upbringing it ruins the child.
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