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What are the positive and negative effects of divorce on teenagers."Divorce" and...

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loraaa | Student | (Level 2) Valedictorian

Posted April 14, 2012 at 9:26 PM via web

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What are the positive and negative effects of divorce on teenagers.

"Divorce" and teenagers.

 "Divorce" affects finances...ect, but If the family includes children or teenagers, they may be deeply affected... HOW?
 What are the positive and negative effects of divorce?

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pohnpei397 | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

Posted April 14, 2012 at 9:32 PM (Answer #2)

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It's positive if the family situation is totally miserable.  At least then they don't have to watch their parents fight.  But generally it's not all that good.  It often forces the teens to have to pick one side or the other or it forces them to hear one parent talking bad about the other.  It's just not a great situation.

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najm1947 | Elementary School Teacher | (Level 1) Valedictorian

Posted April 15, 2012 at 4:06 AM (Answer #3)

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A great discussion topic. In a society where children after 18 are on their own and would be hardly effected in case of a divorce, restricting the topic to teenager seems to be very realistic.

I agree with post 2 and would say that the human race must learn to live for others and NOT for themselves only.

Divorce is a similar situation where parents forget to have any consideration even for their own children but now it has become a part of the culture. The option of divorce has to be avoided at a stage when the children are in their teens. If the parents can not go together, they should decide when the children are very young or should wait few more years till they are above 18. However, in unavoidable circumstances, the only positive effect is saving the teenagers of the misery of mental torture to which they are subjected by seeing the parents fighting.

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suvetha | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 1) Valedictorian

Posted April 15, 2012 at 8:18 AM (Answer #4)

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Good topic. I learnt alot from this discussion

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lsumner | High School Teacher | (Level 2) Senior Educator

Posted April 15, 2012 at 1:09 PM (Answer #5)

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Speaking from experience, my husband and I divorced after twenty-five years of marriage. The positive effects were that the fighting stopped. Our children did not have to witness the constant arguing. Our children were freed from the emotional pain that comes from watching parents fight and criticize one another.

The negative effects of divorce had to do with an end to family traditions. Thanksgiving and Christmas have never been the same. The children now feel an obligation to spend time with both parents on holidays. This can be difficult and stressful. 

 

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sandyyy2012 | Student, Grade 9 | (Level 1) Salutatorian

Posted April 15, 2012 at 10:29 PM (Answer #6)

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Divorce is not good for children. I dont support divorce.

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mwalter822 | Teacher | (Level 2) Educator

Posted April 16, 2012 at 12:16 AM (Answer #7)

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Marriage is more than just a legal agreement. It is central to our way of life.  Look at how kids react to divorce. Even when they know they will still see both parents, the idea that their parents do not love each other any more is devastating to a child. Without realizing it, kids automatically buy into the idea that two people should commit to each other on a permanent basis. When they see their parents fail to follow through with this commitment, it destroys at least some aspect of their belief in the "rightness" and viability of committed love. It's a feeling that is similar to losing a loved one--you know that something has been lost that can never be recovered. But kids would never be able to put it in those words.

I'm not saying divorce by parents is never justified, just that it is almost always a shattering experience for children.

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suvetha | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 1) Valedictorian

Posted April 16, 2012 at 5:36 AM (Answer #8)

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I agree with post #6

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najm1947 | Elementary School Teacher | (Level 1) Valedictorian

Posted April 16, 2012 at 12:54 PM (Answer #9)

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Very well said Mwalter, I endorse your views in post 7. Divorce has to be the last option. Most of the religions do not approve it as a favoured preposition and as I said in my last post:

"... the human race must learn to live for others and NOT for themselves only."

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wannam | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Educator

Posted April 16, 2012 at 2:13 PM (Answer #10)

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Divorce can be a positive thing for the children in the home because the fighting and arguing is likely to stop.  Usually, we think of divorce having negative effects on children.  Many children blame themselves for the break-up of the family.  Many children are truly emotionally distraught by divorce.  We tend to see our parents as constant figures in our lives.  They are our parents and not really individual people.  When a divorce occurs, it shatters that illusion.  We are forced to see our family as a fragile thing rather than a constant, consistent point in our lives.  I know that even adult children are deeply affected by a parent's divorce.

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caglatekeli | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 1) Honors

Posted April 21, 2012 at 7:42 PM (Answer #11)

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some negative effects would be;

in some cases child has to move with his/her parent to another neighbourhood/ city etc. which makes him to change all of his routine, friends and such. this could be distressing. moreover this new place usually has low socioecononomic opportunities which worsen the situation.

depending on child's age, s/he might be effected unconsiously, like s/he may get the idea the idea that world is unreliable (because one of his parents left him), and then some pathologic symptoms may occur.


if father left home and cannot spend enough time with his son anymore, it MIGHT be difficult for that boy to establish an appropriate gender identity because he is lack of a role model. of course, same is for a girl whose mother left home.

i remember a research, putting up the argument that these children tend to have divorce like his/her parents did, i think this can be a result of social learning (eg: s/he did not learn that partners should forgive each other for mistakes)

these are not seen in every children of course, especially if parents keep showing their love and concern.

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sandyyy2012 | Student, Grade 9 | (Level 1) Salutatorian

Posted April 27, 2012 at 5:13 PM (Answer #12)

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some negative effects would be;

in some cases child has to move with his/her parent to another neighbourhood/ city etc. which makes him to change all of his routine, friends and such. this could be distressing. moreover this new place usually has low socioecononomic opportunities which worsen the situation.

depending on child's age, s/he might be effected unconsiously, like s/he may get the idea the idea that world is unreliable (because one of his parents left him), and then some pathologic symptoms may occur.


if father left home and cannot spend enough time with his son anymore, it MIGHT be difficult for that boy to establish an appropriate gender identity because he is lack of a role model. of course, same is for a girl whose mother left home.

i remember a research, putting up the argument that these children tend to have divorce like his/her parents did, i think this can be a result of social learning (eg: s/he did not learn that partners should forgive each other for mistakes)

these are not seen in every children of course, especially if parents keep showing their love and concern.

well, can u give me some positive effects of divorce on teenagers,,,!!!

 

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drahmad1989 | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 1) Valedictorian

Posted April 30, 2012 at 9:11 AM (Answer #13)

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divorce is one of the weakest good deed but only at that time when it is difficult to spend time with each other. In teenage its may cause depression or may be some one can move towards some bad habbits and also creates some disturbance in family .

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sandyyy2012 | Student, Grade 9 | (Level 1) Salutatorian

Posted May 1, 2012 at 9:27 PM (Answer #14)

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good information.

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caglatekeli | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 1) Honors

Posted May 2, 2012 at 6:13 PM (Answer #15)

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fights between parents will be over

 

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sandyyy2012 | Student, Grade 9 | (Level 1) Salutatorian

Posted May 10, 2012 at 7:01 PM (Answer #16)

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A great discussion topic. In a society where children after 18 are on their own and would be hardly effected in case of a divorce, restricting the topic to teenager seems to be very realistic.

I agree with post 2 and would say that the human race must learn to live for others and NOT for themselves only.

Divorce is a similar situation where parents forget to have any consideration even for their own children but now it has become a part of the culture. The option of divorce has to be avoided at a stage when the children are in their teens. If the parents can not go together, they should decide when the children are very young or should wait few more years till they are above 18. However, in unavoidable circumstances, the only positive effect is saving the teenagers of the misery of mental torture to which they are subjected by seeing the parents fighting.

 Mr.Najm, can u give me some positive effects of divorce on teenagers,,,!!!

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sandyyy2012 | Student, Grade 9 | (Level 1) Salutatorian

Posted May 10, 2012 at 7:02 PM (Answer #17)

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and thanks 

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just-s | Student, Grade 11 | (Level 1) Valedictorian

Posted May 18, 2012 at 1:42 PM (Answer #18)

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well generally if there marriages are rocky and if there is lots of quarrelling between spouses the children generally feel insecure and lonely. they also feel intimidated by their parents and don't have confidence in their parents and feel it hard to communicate and confide with their parents.

children then don't feel loved so they seek attention out of the house by others and strangers.....well after a divorse the child may fell more at ease not having to deal with their parent fighting and being at each others necks all the time!!

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sandyyy2012 | Student, Grade 9 | (Level 1) Salutatorian

Posted May 20, 2012 at 5:06 PM (Answer #19)

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In fact, I became a student failed in school because of my parents' divorce.

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hamiduhabiba | (Level 1) eNoter

Posted May 24, 2012 at 8:49 AM (Answer #20)

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I agreed with post number 7, it could lead to prostitution and getting infected with different diseases.

 

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ethiochick | Student, Undergraduate | eNotes Newbie

Posted June 3, 2012 at 12:46 AM (Answer #21)

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When two people get married, they don't come into this planning that they are getting a divorce in the future, things just happen.
I personally don't see any positivity in being divorced but then again you don't want to be with someone who does not make you happy for the rest of your life because you are worried that you will get titled "divorced"

At the end of the day, happiness always comes first. 

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becca1457 | Student, Grade 10 | (Level 1) eNoter

Posted June 5, 2012 at 4:45 PM (Answer #23)

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The positive is that the children can be more calm and relaxed about the fighting and the argument in the house.

The negative of a divorce is it can most likely affect one of the children the most about the divorce depending on which the child most likely prefers to be with, but can't be because of the seperation.

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brandyjones1996 | Student, Grade 9 | eNotes Newbie

Posted June 5, 2012 at 5:05 PM (Answer #24)

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agree on post #5 and #7

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renoa | Elementary School Teacher | (Level 1) Salutatorian

Posted June 12, 2012 at 3:03 PM (Answer #25)

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Disadvantage: Impact on Children

Divorce doesn't just affect the couple who are splitting; children feel the impact, too. A disadvantage is the negative impact it will have on children. Researchers and psychologists accept that divorce can negatively affect toddlers and teenagers, according to the University of New Hampshire. Toddlers will often believe they are to blame for a divorce, while teenagers may feel pressured into siding with one parent. The results are that a child will grow up doubting his ability to marry and can suffer depression because of the break-up of his family.

Advantage: Impact on Children

The impact of divorce on children has been stated previously as a disadvantage. However, there is an advantage to a child's parents splitting up. A child who experiences divorce may mature quicker and develop responsibility at a younger age. If a child's father moves out and she has younger siblings, she may have to take on a co-parental role with her mother. This exposure will give her a sense of responsibility that other areas of her life can benefit from. Also, children will benefit from divorce if there is a high level of conflict in their parents' marriage. It is unhealthy for children to be around parents who fight and criticize each other.

 

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renoa | Elementary School Teacher | (Level 1) Salutatorian

Posted June 12, 2012 at 3:04 PM (Answer #26)

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sorry I didn't mention that if you want to read more about it you may check the link attached

 

http://www.ehow.co.uk/info_8074530_advantages-disadvantages-divorce-family.html

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iplayball25 | Student, Grade 9 | (Level 2) eNoter

Posted June 13, 2012 at 5:40 AM (Answer #27)

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Divorce isn't a good thing.  I don't like it because it can get pretty ugly.  I don't think there are any positives on teenagers, unless the child is being abused or hurt by one parent.  Then, they can be safer away from the abusing parent.  Also, if a parent makes a teens life miserable, they can get away.  Usually this isn't the case.  A lot of times teenagers think it's their fault their parents are divorcing, which can cause them serious mental and emotional pain.  The kids don't like seeing their parents fight or argue.  They want want to see their parents together.  When they see them separate, it can shatter them.  Divorce should be a last resort in my opinion.  Parents should try to stick it through for not only their children, but for themselves as well.

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