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BOY FRIEND AND GIRL FRIEND CULTURE -- has it gone too far?i am very much in touch with...

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Posted December 15, 2012 at 4:40 AM via web

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BOY FRIEND AND GIRL FRIEND CULTURE -- has it gone too far?

i am very much in touch with present generation. boy friend culture is taking perverted ways which are demotivating youth. their is nothing wrong in friend ship. but the dating culture is ruing the student life. the consequences are very grave. please give your views.

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pohnpei397 | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

Posted December 15, 2012 at 5:14 AM (Answer #2)

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I'm curious as to what you think is wrong with having young men and women dating.  What, specifically, is going on that you think will have "grave" consequences?    It seems to me that it is very normal and proper for young people to have romantic relationships.  How else will they learn how to relate to the opposite sex?

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Posted December 15, 2012 at 6:17 AM (Answer #3)

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I'm curious as to what you think is wrong with having young men and women dating.  What, specifically, is going on that you think will have "grave" consequences?    It seems to me that it is very normal and proper for young people to have romantic relationships.  How else will they learn how to relate to the opposite sex?

certain experiences in life to be tasted once. opposite sex experiences during scool days is no good to academic line. i came acroos many tragic cases since i am an active member in various answers sites. younare al the time exposed to opposite sex in this modern days. it do not require additional training during student life. i do not want to go deep into the subject since it is very sensitive, let us avoid unwanted relations. if well maintained under elderly guidance, healthy mind will drive to success. it the senses crop up such attitude to support our body demands. let us maintain clarity in biological dynamics performance. how ever i have lenient view up on inherited culture. we Indians differ from west in all respects. so please understand my feelings. every healthy relation is to be encouraged for better understanding ..

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e-martin | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

Posted December 15, 2012 at 3:13 PM (Answer #4)

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I recently saw that teen pregnancy rates have fallen off dramatically in recent decades. This is true in the US anyway. Given this trend, I find it hard to condemn teen relationships as being too serious or too distracting. 

If a person is going to be distracted from his or her studies by the presence of the opposite sex, that person would still be distracted if he or she went to a single gender school. In my opinion, if the dedication to academic achievement is not there in the first place, distraction is inevitable, whether that distraction comes from boys, girls, sports or video games. 

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Karen P.L. Hardison | College Teacher | eNotes Employee

Posted December 15, 2012 at 10:46 PM (Answer #5)

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It is a sure sign that the girlfriend-boyfriend culture has gone too far when students are caught on a routine basis in all high schools in a county district engaged in intercourse during school hours under stairwells and in back corridors with seemingly little concern for being seen or caught. It is also a sign that this coupling culture has gone too far when middle-schoolers are not assured of safety from molestation at parties at school or at friend's homes. While such things may have always gone on (there was both Johnny Angel and Johnny Rebel in the more idyllic 1950s), these things have escalated and intensified in extent, harm, incidence and severity.

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sesh | Student, Grade 12 | Valedictorian

Posted December 17, 2012 at 4:11 AM (Answer #6)

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It is the same in Sri Lanka too, but not to such extent.. It is always prevented by the culture, yet it is an open secret thet these things happen. It's a problem that will never end, the wiser limit those feelings and give the prominancy to studies, while the rest become victims by themselves. that is unstoppable!

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bullgatortail | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Distinguished Educator

Posted December 17, 2012 at 4:35 PM (Answer #7)

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I worry more about the younger children who date these days--middle schoolers as young as 11 or 12 who routinely find the need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend at all times. Many of them engage in adult relations and put themselves in adult situations that wouldn't have been tolerated by most parents a generation or two ago.

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user1754155 | High School Teacher | eNoter

Posted December 17, 2012 at 11:32 PM (Answer #8)

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I recently saw that teen pregnancy rates have fallen off dramatically in recent decades. This is true in the US anyway. Given this trend, I find it hard to condemn teen relationships as being too serious or too distracting. 

If a person is going to be distracted from his or her studies by the presence of the opposite sex, that person would still be distracted if he or she went to a single gender school. In my opinion, if the dedication to academic achievement is not there in the first place, distraction is inevitable, whether that distraction comes from boys, girls, sports or video games. 

my gratitude to you..thanks for valuable view. i am very much pleased and feel tremendrous strength to widen the above subject to educate the students in this weak area. i am very mush passing inspiring posts in my fb profile. i request you to join and add up your voice to awaken the students..

 

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user1754155 | High School Teacher | eNoter

Posted December 17, 2012 at 11:38 PM (Answer #9)

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It is a sure sign that the girlfriend-boyfriend culture has gone too far when students are caught on a routine basis in all high schools in a county district engaged in intercourse during school hours under stairwells and in back corridors with seemingly little concern for being seen or caught. It is also a sign that this coupling culture has gone too far when middle-schoolers are not assured of safety from molestation at parties at school or at friend's homes. While such things may have always gone on (there was both Johnny Angel and Johnny Rebel in the more idyllic 1950s), these things have escalated and intensified in extent, harm, incidence and severity.

regard to you, i am well convinced with your opinion. i feel there is much responsibility on our shoulder to enlighten the students in this area.'

i gained lot of moral courage in your message.

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user1754155 | High School Teacher | eNoter

Posted December 17, 2012 at 11:43 PM (Answer #10)

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It is the same in Sri Lanka too, but not to such extent.. It is always prevented by the culture, yet it is an open secret thet these things happen. It's a problem that will never end, the wiser limit those feelings and give the prominancy to studies, while the rest become victims by themselves. that is unstoppable!

i am very much tankful for valuable opinion.

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user1754155 | High School Teacher | eNoter

Posted December 17, 2012 at 11:45 PM (Answer #11)

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I worry more about the younger children who date these days--middle schoolers as young as 11 or 12 who routinely find the need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend at all times. Many of them engage in adult relations and put themselves in adult situations that wouldn't have been tolerated by most parents a generation or two ago.

i feel very much elated in your articulation. very perspective and practicable view. the worse can be dealt with collective effort.

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user1754155 | High School Teacher | eNoter

Posted December 17, 2012 at 11:54 PM (Answer #12)

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education is the wealth of the nation. the technological comforts are misused to phy sical pleasure. the remedial roots  must start from mothers lap and school. old people  must take initiative to under take responsibility in this weak area.

few teachers have expressed their difficulty in tackling students in america. though they are devotional to their profession, the students are at their ego to follow the instructions.

i request you to give your opinion time to time.

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William Delaney | (Level 1) Distinguished Educator

Posted January 30, 2013 at 1:48 PM (Answer #13)

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I would like to ask user1754155, who originated this discussion, how he feels about legalized abortion and about gay marriage, both of which are fairly recent developments and both of which are highly controversial subjects.

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