I'd be interested in knowing when other people settled on their basic values (for example, religious values, political opinions, etc.). My guess is that this happens, for most of us, at a fairly early age (even in the teens) and that things rarely change much as we get older. This, however, is just something I think I've noticed, so I'd be interested in the input of others.
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I developed my basic values pre-teen years. I've stuck with them for a long time since then, so my beliefs on certain topics and events are consistent and strong.
My basic values were settled on in my teens; the last years few years of school actually. Most of them have been reinforced since then. I find this a little amusing at times, that I haven't had any incidents in life that have made me give up on any of them and choose alternative ways of thinking. Things that I settled on early in my life seem to me just as relevant and correct now as they seemed when I was going through the process of making my choices quite a lot time back.
For me, a lot of things are still evolving at age 40+.
This is particularly true for me politically. I used to be more liberal than I am now. I don't know if it's a function of growing older, or of not being in a political science graduate program anymore, or living in a conservative area. You could say I still have basic liberal tendencies that I picked up in childhood, but I've become more of a moderate. So in that way, at least, I've continued to change up to a fairly advanced age.
Settling on values? Mine continue to change. What I've found is that over time, ideas become more refined, meaning there are more examples that either fit or are discarded regarding a particular value.
Politically, when very young, I was very Left. Religiously, I was indoctrinated in Catholicism. Where I used to be a Catholic Democrat, I am now a Unitarian Libertarian, a shift was completed by my early 30's.
In some areas I have seen my values change and move in a less absolute direction over the years, growing more flexible. (I suppose that means I am becoming more liberal.)
With time I grow more intellectually dedicated to empathy as a primary social value, taking precedence over other modes of value. I might say that my emotionally defined values have not changed with time, but my intellectual ones have. (Moral values = unchanging. Political values = changing. My personal relationship to my value structures = changing.)
I think that I have a basic set of 'ground rules' which are the codes by which I live, but as circumstances and society evolve, there are points where I have to reflect on my views. I had a basic belief that all children were better off with two parents - as instances of the complex relationships we have around us emerge, I see that one good parent can be effective compared to two disinterested ones.
My values change the more I get older. While I have in general become much more liberal than in the past, I also have become more and more aware of the complexities of issues. I have always retained a few core values (for instance, I've always valued honesty, especially academic honesty) but my beliefs change as I learn more. I guess the willingness to consider new ideas is, in its way, a value in and of itself.
I had been socialized with a set of values by the time I left high school, but all of those were challenged by my college experience, and five years later, I emerged with a different set of values. While the basically accepted ones were still intact, most of my values had been added to, modified and/or made more complex by the different realities and the education I had been exposed to by my early 20s.
I took the basic values of my dad... since I was child.
And loved these values... ^_^
True, may be some the values from my dad is not good, such as "dogmatic and fanatcal.....
but I am still love this values.
In our family, the basic values have been Truthfulness and Honesty and these have been imparted in us by our parents through example. Come what may, we have to uphold these values.
I know, life becomes tough but one always knows that he/she is right and this is the biggest consolation in life.
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